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How to Document Harassment and Stalking
The short answer: To document harassment or stalking, keep a dated log of every incident and unwanted contact — what happened, when, and where — and save every message, screenshot, and any witnesses. A clear, dated record of a repeated pattern is what supports a report to police or a request for a restraining order. If you are ever in immediate danger, contact emergency services first.
Being targeted by someone who won't stop is frightening, and keeping a record can feel like one small piece of control. This guide shows you how to do it safely and effectively.
What should I document?
Log every incident, including:
- Unwanted calls, texts, messages, or emails — save the originals and screenshots.
- Being followed, watched, or shown up on — with dates, times, and locations.
- Any threats, direct or veiled.
- Contact that continues after you've asked it to stop.
- Names of anyone who witnessed any of it.
Record each one with the date and time, even when an incident seems minor on its own.
Why does a documented pattern matter?
Because protection often depends on showing that behavior is repeated and escalating, not a one-off. A single incident can be dismissed; a dated series of them shows a clear pattern, which is what courts and police look for. Your record's job is to make that pattern visible — each dated entry is another point on the line.
How do I document threatening messages?
Save the original message and take a screenshot that shows the sender and the date. Don't delete anything, even if it's distressing — deleted messages can't be recovered as evidence. Keep them backed up somewhere safe. If messages come across several apps or numbers, keep them together in one dated record so the full picture is clear.
What do I need for a restraining order?
Requirements vary by state and court, but a clear, dated record of repeated incidents and any threats, with saved messages and witnesses, strongly supports a request. Check your local court's specific rules. The stronger and more organized your documented pattern, the easier it is for a court to see the need for protection.
How do I document safely?
Keep your record somewhere the other person can't access — not on a shared device or account. Back it up. If you're in a situation where being seen documenting could put you at risk, prioritize your safety and record when it's safe to do so. Your wellbeing comes first; the record second.
When should I start?
As soon as it begins. A record built from the first incident shows the pattern and escalation far more clearly than one assembled later, and it means the evidence is ready if and when you decide to act. If you are ever in immediate danger, contact emergency services.
Frequently asked questions
How do I document harassment or stalking?
Keep a dated log of every incident and unwanted contact — what happened, when, and where — and save all messages, screenshots, and any witnesses.
What do I need for a restraining order?
Requirements vary by state, but a clear, dated record of repeated incidents and threats, with saved messages, strongly supports a request. Check your local court's rules.
What should I document?
Every call, text, message, or in-person contact with its date and time, screenshots of messages, any threats, locations, and any witnesses.
When should I start documenting?
As soon as it starts. A record from the first incident shows the pattern and escalation. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.
General information, not legal advice. Laws vary by location. For your situation, consult a qualified lawyer. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.